Wedding invitations these days often say "Please join us in celebrating" etc. Which means, as a rule, that you go to a church or hotel or museum or park or patio somewhere and watch the bride and groom whisper their vows, kiss awkwardly, and cut cake. Not that these occasions aren't often moving and meaningful. But rarely are they magical.
So . . . imagine instead that you go to Berkeley Tuolumne Camp, near Yosemite National Park, and gather for three days with two hundred people from all over the continent (New York to Mexico, LA to DC). You sing around a huge bonfire, sleep in canvas-covered cabins with the river roaring yards away, wake up with a yoga class, eat piles of fresh-flipped pancakes, help with the wedding flowers, dress in your "forest finery," and make your way to an amphiteater built into a wooded hillside. Then watch the bride and groom walk along a petal-strewn path, to the music of a single guitar, and gently marry under an arbor of fresh-cut cedar boughs.
And I'm not making this up! Go now to greet their parents on a bridge across the river, and drink champagne on a tiny island. Then dinner. The rustic camp dining hall has been transformed with fairy lights and fine linen, each table centered by a candle ringed in fresh lavender. Delectable salmon, delightful company. The bride and groom dance their way gracefully through "Begin the Beguine," then everyone mobs the floor and blissful guests (from ten-year-olds to eighty-somethings) boogie on til 2 AM, pausing only for cake.
And I'm not making this up! Next day sleepy people gather for brunch, memorialize new-found friendships, round up the T-shirts they tye-dyed at yesterday's workshop, and wend their way back down the mountain. Bride and groom (apparently the happiest people alive) say fond farewells for hours before collapsing in a heap.
Now that's magical.
But not by accident does a Shakespearean fantasy take shape in the semi-wilderness! Bride and groom worked for many months to bring this celebration to life, aided by family and friends. I had the honor of helping a little in the aftermath, and I can't begin to tell you how hard this lovely couple labored to ensure that their dream would come true. The remarkable thing is that their dream was not just about feeling special themselves and having lots of nice pictures. Their dream was to create, however briefly, that fellowship we all long for . . . an honorable community built around beauty and love.
You can never tell what will happen to people--but I have to think that such a generous beginning will bring this marriage good fortune. And perhaps their example will inspire the rest of us to larger dreams. Not everyone can practice hospitality on this scale, of course. Yet we can all care for our guests unselfishly, and share with them the deeper meaning of our ceremonies.
P.S. This is my excuse for not posting much the past two weeks. I was "on assignment," covering a truly Metafizzical event! (Follow the links to find out more about Berkeley Tuolumne Camp and Yosemite National Park.)